Today I’m going to do things differently. I’m going to tell you about the meditating I did on Thursday and how it helped me. I’m not going to tell you what to do with the meditating because everyone has a different thing that they would like to focus on. Everyone has that little voice in their minds that they are constantly arguing with. Like me for instance. I will be focused on meditating just to get all of those voices calm and relaxed. When I meditate I don’t necessarily sit on my yoga mat and make all kinds of noises to imitate different kinds of surroundings. I sit anywhere and simply try and clear my mind. Try cleaning all those thoughts, feelings or whatever it might be that is causing those storms in my mind. And ladies, I feel like you would be able to relate. Sometimes it’s like every single thing that crosses your path was set out to complicate your day. You want to make your first cup of tea for the morning, but when you look at the cupboard there is no more tea bags, or you go to the shops and they don’t have the specific item that you are looking for. They might be silly examples but all of these tiny happenings add up to the way your day turns out in the end. And of course what you decide to make of it also plays a huge part of it. They say that when you get knocked off of the horse, you just have to get back up. But sometimes taking that step to get back up is the biggest struggle of your day, even week.
Now when I start feeling like this. Like everything in my world is about to come crashing down. It is almost an automatic reaction to start meditating in my head or just simply reason with myself. Now a lot of you that know me personally know that myself and my family have been through a very rough time these past few months, for me the ultimate escape was meditating…that feeling of everything around you is just calm. Speaking of calm, when all of this happened and I really needed something to help me with my meditating and getting my thoughts together I found an app called Calm, there is a free version and then also a more specific version that you pay for that gives you unlimited access to the sessions. (Feel free to comment if you have any questions about where I found it, etc.) Now, I like this app because you can choose your background noises and then what type of meditation. I like using this app as it actually feels like you are achieving something. That brief moment of control over your emotions and your thoughts. I saw somewhere that a human brain is programmed in a way that when someone gives you a key word you automatically see that key word. For example, if I say to you imagine a black and white cat with a pink nose, you are going to see that cat. So when it comes to these apps I would say it is very important that it guides, helps and even motivates you through the sessions. By telling you to relax, and leading you through the process of noticing your different body parts and how they all work together to form you as a human. You as an individual. It helps a lot with the whole meditating process.
I must also confess that I don’t always necessarily use the app, as you might find yourself in a situation where you don’t have your phone with you. Or you are in a situation that you might lose your cool. The best thing to turn to then is meditating. At home or at work or even when you go to the shops. That few minutes or seconds you take to meditate and clear your head could potentially save you a lot of hassle in your life. When I meditate, I like to sit at home in a relaxed position (I am also guilty of sometimes doing this laying down). Then I turn on some music – you might feel more relaxed with nature sounds, etc. find what works for you best and use that. And I simply sit, and relax my body. I focus on the points of my body that I can feel is the most stressed or worked up. Then I focus on those points to make the nerves and muscles relaxed. You will be able to feel the difference. It’s like when you have walked around the whole day with shrugged shoulders and then when you come home you just let them down and relax. That instant feeling of relief. You can literally say that you can feel the weight coming off your shoulders. Then after that, I focus on relaxing my mind, my thoughts and my soul. If there is something that is making me sad, I take that moment and try and remember the positive behind it. For example: You lose your job, instead of going into a complete morbid spin, I remember the good times I had. The memories, the friends and remember that everything happens for a reason. You don’t always know the reason straight away but in due time it will unravel itself to you.
When I do this, I instantly start seeing things in a much better perspective. It reminds you that even when you have the darkest of days there will always be a light at the end of the tunnel. You need to just keep on going until you can see it – and not give up before you have reached it. After you have done that everything else will feel like a breeze. After that, I close my eyes and clear my mind of everything. Yes you heard me, everything. You need to be able to have that one escape that it is just you. Your happiness, your peace, your soul. Once you have found that spot you focus on it… Focusing on nothing else but your breathing. Focusing on your muscles. You become one with your body again. Strange to say I know, but I really feel that we as woman and actually all human beings are always working so hard to constantly impress everyone around us and then in the end forget to focus on the person that matters the most. Yourself. We constantly forget about thinking about our own needs, dreams, and happiness. It is very important when you meditate that you have that place to where you can escape from everything around you. A place where you can ask yourself the question of: What will make me happy? Where is my peace? I’m not suggesting that everyone should become self-absorbed but knowing that you are happy with yourself, true to yourself you will be able to achieve so much more of your life goals.
I challenge you, my readers, today. When you get home tonight. Before you go to bed or at any time that you feel the most relaxed, take a few minutes or even seconds. And close your eyes, take a big breath in and a long breath out and become one with yourself again. Become one with your mind, your soul and your body.
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